Confidence is a Tool

Like any other attribute we use in life to get what we want,
confidence is simply a tool we utilize to get a job done. When you are
consciously improving your level of confidence and improving your self-
image, you are preparing yourself for situations where it will require
you to interact and socialize which can lead to networking
opportunities. Even a person who does not feel they have a problem
with self-confidence needs to constantly be looking for ways to
sharpen their abilities.

In today's society, there is more competition than ever to be the
best, be the brightest and be in demand. Before you go to an
interview, a networking event or even a friend's cocktail party, you
need to prepare your mind for the conversation and the questions you
will likely face. When you bring these thoughts to your mind's
forefront, you are more likely to say just the right thing or bring up
an important point at just the right time. Don't be afraid to coach
yourself every time you face these situations. This will give you the
edge you are seeking. Envision how the event will go before it
happens. Be mindful to consider the people you are speaking with and
listen just as much as you speak and remember the details about your
contacts in order to use them when you meet again. You never know who
could turn out to be a real ally. Never snub or ignore someone just
because they do not appear to be able to do anything for you. This is
just bad Karma!

When you walk into the room you should exude confidence that is
tangible to the people around you. Ask the pertinent questions, work a
meaningful conversation and most of all think before you speak. Always
ask for a business card if you have had a good encounter with someone.
You never know when it could come in very handy. Constantly seek to
sharpen your confidence tool and never end the quest to find new ones.

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Astrid Harris, Author Of Unstoppable Confidence, Discusses How To Develop Self Confidence

October 26, 2009 | Dallas, Texas | Vetting explained

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Astrid Harris, author of Unstoppable Confidence, will be appearing on Authors Web TV through October 12, 2010.

All people share common fears and challenges. From fear to depression, anxiety to a simple lack of confidence, these issues know no personal boundaries. They affect all people, from schoolchildren to business owners, from mom to corporate executives. The development of self confidence is a subject that is not taught in schools, but must rather be developed through life experience or training.

Astrid Harris has recently released Unstoppable Confidence. The book provides six breakthrough steps to help build self-confidence using case studies, exercises, assignments and empowering techniques.

“I wrote this book,” stated Ms. Harris, “to help people overcome negative feelings, to empower their actions by overcoming self defeating attitudes and change thinking patterns that limited the possibility of achievement."

Unstoppable Confidence provides information regarding how to develop a ‘Confidence Role Model’ to learn how others approach life and to model that in our own lives. It also details why a strong inner belief system is vital in building self confidence and clearly details strategies to overcome negative messages, whether those message come from ourself or from others. The key to developing self confidence lies in the choices we make.

“Today,” stated Ms. Harris, “having a high level of self confidence is imperative. People are trying so hard to keep their jobs or find new ones without depleting savings and avoiding financial ruin. These are all very powerful adversaries that can beat down someone's self confidence and self-worth."”

Unstoppable Confidence is available in both hardcover and e-book formats at the author’s website, Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble.. Ms. Harris is available for interview and can be contacted by email at astrid@polyglot-network.com.

Astrid Harris was born, raised and educated in Europe, studying law. As a successful life coach and motivator, Astrid Harris has a unique gift to help people break through barriers that limit their self-confidence in order to lead the life they want.

Negativity Buster

If you paid attention to all the negativity you encounter each day,
you would wind up in a mental institution within a week! Naturally, we
all have a filter that enables us to block out the unpleasant things
we encounter each day. We may see a sad story on the news or catch
wind of a friend's misfortune without it getting us down and ruining
the day. But there are negative influences that we do let affect us on
some level without even knowing it.

For example, maybe you were planning on completing an art project but
the sales clerk at the craft store told you about how hard it was to
do. Maybe that led you to feel like its just not worth attempting
leaving a good idea untried. Sometimes the power of suggestion can be
so strong that you could lose confidence in yourself. This is just one
example among many of things that lead to the same conclusion.

Blocking negative outcomes is achieved by blocking the process that
leads to it by manipulating the things we have power over. Of course
we can not control everything that we hear and see but we can limit
things that we know to be prohibitive to positivity. If you know that
every time you go to lunch with Kathy, you eat way too much and end up
skipping the gym, then maybe you ought to ask Kathy to a walk in the
park with the dogs or a quick happy hour drink.

Next, control the way you think about the negativity that enters your
psyche. You can't help thinking the bad thoughts but try to make a
habit of following them up with a positive thought. This takes some
getting used to but eventually becomes a habit. I have a friend who
is a professional golfer and every time he tells himself, "don't hit
it in the water" of course this is the first thing he does. Why is
that? Because the water was the last thought in his mind before he
engaged the golf club. Now, when he thinks those thoughts, he tells
himself. "You will hit the fairway (or green)". Now, the last thought
in his head is of a nice shot. It has really made a difference.

Lastly, don't let the negative thoughts and stimuli get into your head
and spoil your plans and your day. If you can't control it, try hard
to fill your mind with positive thoughts. If Joe, your best friend,
has lost his grandmother and is really upset, tell yourself that all
you can do is be a good friend and fill him with hope. Letting it take
you down will not bring her back, instead convert the negative into
positive and find joy wherever it is. Joe will thank you for it.

conquering the negativity in everyday activities will make you a
happier person and keep you on track to achieve your goals. Keep your
eye on what you want every single day.